Posted by: Fern | October 1, 2008

Zombiefied

Today was meant to be my first day “back on the job”, I’d had a full week out of hospital, relaxing and settling in, and today was going to be my first day back as amazingly-constructive-supermum. HAH! I woke up just before seven (Dan had already been up since 5:30 with Declan), watched Nick Jr. with the boy, broke two needles on my sewing machine, watched half of Dr. Phil and then had a three hour nap. I’m starting to feel like I’m spending all of my day either asleep or sitting on the sofa with my norks out, this was fine when Declan was a newborn as I didn’t have any other responsibilities, but with a toddler running around it’s a great deal harder, even with my Mum’s help. I just feel like I need an extra 12 hours in the day just to sleep.

Connor is such a laid back baby, very calm, a great sleeper, excellent with feeding, very big on the cuddles, and still very quiet, the most noise I’ve heard from him to date has been a particularly loud squeak when his big brother’s foot came into rather sharp contact with his head – in D’s defence, this was a complete accident and when he realised he’d hurt the baby I think he was probably the more upset out of the two of them.

Declan is being wonderful, although he’s got into the habit of ridiculously early mornings, he’s doing great with the baby, will rub his back to help burp him, he’ll try and give him the dummy, he gets upset if Connor is distressed and so far has been awesome with him. I’m going to look at some child care places next week to think about putting him in for just one day a week to give him some time away from me and some socialisation with other toddlers. The three weeks I spent away from him made me realise he doesn’t need me by his side 24/7, as much as the control freak in me would like that, and I know how much he would benefit from some time spent away from me, playing with other children and developing his social skills further.

I’ve found the transition from one child to two far easier than going from none to one, my attitude this time round is so much better and I think that’s definitely rubbing off on the boys, I’m a calmer and more relaxed Mum. Tomorrow my Mum is going out for the afternoon so it will be my first time left alone with the two of them, I’m actually looking forward to it, I feel confident and oddly relaxed about it. I remember when Dan had to go back to work when Declan was about ten days old and I was completely alone with him for the first time, I was in tears when he left and I think kept them up for most of the morning, the idea of which I just find hilarious now. Whether it’s a case of “been there, done that”, or the medication I’m now on, who knows, but I do know that I much prefer the person and Mum I am this time around, that is, when I don’t feel like a zombie 😀

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  1. Yeh Fern!!

    Second time round is usually easier and God has been good to you with Connor being such a good little boy.

    It looks like Declan loves his baby brother too, which is far better than him wanting to put him out with the garbage!!

    Child care – wow – what a huge step! I knew you had it in you – and you are right Declan will love it. You sound soooooo much happier too. Those happy Pills are great things, aren’t they???

    Having naps and “norking” is normal at this stage, don’t beat yourself up over it. Just beat your husband up, if he doesn’t pull his weight!! Hint, hint, nudge, nudge!!

    Dan, you know how to use a vacuum cleaner and also wash up, I distinctly remember teaching you myself! It’s not all about watching TV with No. 1 son (although I’m sure D loved it).

    Gran is excited about seeing Connor Lorne Treacy next Thursday or Friday. Will call you,

    Love to all my family

    Nana T
    XXX

  2. Great to hear its going so well for you – Yay you! 😀
    It’s lovely to hear that Declan is accepting his brother so warmly – good on him!
    I was going to call you this afternoon, but you may have your hands full with both babes, so I’ll leave till Friday when Mum can help and we can have a natter. 🙂
    Love and hugs to you all,
    Jen
    xxx

  3. OH MY GOD! It IS so much easier isn’t it! I can’t even believe how different it is this time around. Much better! Of course, I am also medicated this time 😉

    I also echo your thoughts on the one day a week daycare thing. I want to do the same. And I am the same about letting my kids away from me. I HATE it! I want to keep my eye on them forever. But that’s just my crazy coming through 😉

    Glad to hear you’re doing well.

    One day I should come visit. When life settles down and all 🙂

    xxx

  4. Congrats on Connor’s safe arrival! He is such a cutie-pie! Hope you’re able to get some sleep. You have my full admiration taking care of a newborn and a toddler!

  5. Sympathy on the zombiefication aspect – I remember it well! Or, actually, rather fuzzily. But the FEELING I remember well.

    I’m glad the transition’s going well for you 🙂

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  7. Fern – sounds like you are adjusting well. I hope things have continued that way!!

    Lynnette

  8. Fern, Fern, Fern,

    Hope all is well my dear. And that you’re coping ok. Please don’t forget us lot on here, an update is most anticipated.

    Love to youreselves

    James


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